This is what a person should do, and have, at a reading: bring a bottle of water, and maybe some aspirin, and a box of kleenex. Remember to introduce yourself, then speak clearly and loudly. Read slowly. Don’t cry. When people ask questions, repeat them, loudly, before you answer them. Have business cards ready, with the correct spelling of your name and your email address and maybe your website address, too. Start on time, and finish on time.
But I didn’t do any of those things.
I forgot the water, I had a headache. I didn’t have a kleenex. I forgot to introduce myself, and I spoke quietly. I have no business cards in my purse (though I have a matchbox fire truck and a bag of animal crackers.) The reading started a half-hour or so late; it ended much later.
This is what happened: Kelly, the store’s Community Relations Manager, supplied the glass of water. She also introduced me, and though we started late, no one seemed to mind. When I spoke too softly, someone gently asked me to be louder. In the middle part, when I write about love, a tear escaped from my eyelid, trailing down my nose, followed by another. A box of kleenex appeared.
During the question-and-answer period, when my mind was a blank, Mary remembered to ask me about the photos in Gifts, so I could speak about them. MaryAnn remembered to bring up the Buddy Walk in September, so then I could talk about community. And Cyndi asked about my book, so I remembered I was writing one, and I talked about that, too.
The essay I read from Gifts has a part about hands lifting me up, when I couldn’t find my own way. It felt the same, today. Hands lifted me up. The afternoon was a gift–but it isn’t clear who was giving, and who was receiving.
I think everyone was doing both.
I had Avery’s smiley-face figure with me, I was wearing Amy’s beautiful DS awareness bracelet, and I had a pocketful of good wishes from all of you. I felt them, and they were another gift of the day.
Thank you.



Thanks for posting this. I’m getting ready to do a B&N stint and I had no idea what to bring! I’m so glad you did it and that you were well supported.
OH I sure hope my bracelet helped. It sounded like you had a wonderful group of people there supporting you and that you did great! I wish I could of been there!!!
You did fabulous! As I was watching and listening, I just kept thinking of how wonderful it is that mothers of new babies can be comforted by your honest feelings and words. You are assisting in some very difficult moments, as well as reinforcing the steady love and growth in families touched by those with DS. Good job Jennifer. I was again touched and moved by your words. Goodness to you!
Woohoo! Knew you’d triumph in the end!
Well done Jennifer. Make sure you allow yourself a *smug* moment
yay! how lovely! art and life intertwined, hands reaching out with what you neeed in the moment. i’m SO glad it went well.
I went to pick up my copy of gifts at B&N this weekend and thought of your reading! I’m sure you did a wonderful job, and I’m so glad you did it – I’ve been so touched by all of the stories in the book.
Awwww – I’m so glad that even with a few bumps, it went WELL!!!!
I wish I could have been there. Congratulations!
Nik and I are clapping (Nik even claps with his feet!) for our new friend’s success. Thank YOU, Jennifer, for sharing of yourself and your family. You touch the lives of many, including non-DS families. If you’re ever on the east coast for a reading…(or vacation, or whatever!)
I would loved to have been there. I know you did an excellent job.
Sounds like it turned out just right. What a gift you gave your audience by being a mom, instead of a slick professional. That’s what this book is all about. Hugs!
Bravo. Thanks for the report.
Oh Jennifer, you are probably being too hard on yourself. I’m sure it was a beautiful reading and I’m sorry about the headache! I probably would have been bawling reading excerpts! I start crying when I read e-mails outloud to my husband that I thought were sweet. Anyway, good for you, and who cares about business cards! I’m sure you have a box of those at home too! I love the fact that you had a fire truck and animal crackers though! Very cute.
How I wish I could have been there. I know you did a great job!
I can’t imagine speaking in front of people LOL I submitted a story for Gifts II…won’t find out till 2009 @@ to know if it will be in the book. Congrats to you though..I can’t wait to get a copy and read it!
Your great gift is your openness – sharing such personal thoughts with others – I bet they loved hearing you speak, meeting you. Glad it went well and that there were fellow ‘givers’ there too lend a hand.
Thank you for drawing me such a beautiful picture. I wish I had been there. Let me know next time, will ya! Much love.
Wish I could have been there…..it sounds perfect!